2020 is a weird year for pretty much everyone, but it might be especially tough for kids. Children need to be around other children in order to grow and learn, and the pandemic has made this hard to do. Preteens and teens, who are in a developmental stage where friendships become central to life, might be hit especially hard by social distancing. If your child is struggling with depression or loneliness, online social groups can be a great way to reconnect with old friends or meet new people. Here are a few things to consider if your child is considering joining a group!
The Benefits of Online Groups for Kids
If you’ve noticed signs of depression or anxiety in your child, your first thought might be to seek out a counselor. One-on-one therapy can be a great option for many kids, giving them new coping skills and a chance to work through their feelings with an adult who isn’t a friend or family member. However, if a child is feeling lonely or struggling socially, there are some things that individual therapy just can’t provide as well as a group.
Any time a child has the opportunity to socialize with peers, it benefits her emotional wellbeing. Here are a few ways that extracurriculars, clubs, and online group classes of any kind can benefit kids’ social and emotional growth:
Group activities give kids a real-life opportunity to practice social skills like turn-taking, compromise, and starting and maintaining conversations.
Learning and mastering a new activity helps kids feel more confident and boosts self-esteem.
Group activities provide a chance to meet like-minded kids who might become good friends.
Socializing with others can help treat and prevent depression.
The Benefits of Therapy Groups for Kids
In addition to the benefits listed above, therapy groups have a few extra perks that can make them particularly effective for kids struggling with anxiety, depression, or social skills difficulties:
Being in a therapy group helps kids realize they are not alone with their feelings: they’re in a room with other kids who share their experience and get what it’s like.
Children in therapy groups have the opportunity to help and support each other, which is empowering.
Being in a group more closely mimics the “real world” experiences kids are likely to have once they leave the therapy office: if they can use their coping skills in group, they can use them outside of group, too!
Small Online Classes Encourage Kids’ Interests
No matter what your child’s interest, there’s probably a group out there to learn about it. Outschool offers small group online classes for kids on pretty much every subject under the sun, from video game design to cupcake baking to how to draw Baby Yoda. I find that smaller groups tend to feel less awkward for kids (and adults!) than big ones, which might make it easier to socialize in classes like Outschool’s. Class lengths vary, too, from multi-week courses to one-off classes, so it’s not a big commitment to give it a try.
Online Communities Connect Tweens and Teens (Without Roblox or TikTok)
While not exactly a group activity, kid-friendly online communities can be valuable for preteens and teens because they’re budget-friendly and available 24/7. If you’re looking for an alternative to social media or the typical Minecraft and Roblox fare, check out this awesome list of age-appropriate online communities from Commonsense.org. I’m particularly intrigued by the Harry Potter Alliance, an online club for kids that uses the Harry Potter series to encourage social activism. Am I too old to join?!
Online Gaming Groups Help Children Practice Social Skills
Often, kids who are struggling to make or keep friendships could benefit from brushing up on their social skills: things like how to keep conversations going, deal with conflict, and speak up for themselves assertively. But what kid really wants to go to a place where they feel like their social awkwardness is under a microscope? Not only is learning social skills through play less uncomfortable for kids, it’s also likely to be more effective: role playing conversations with an adult is never going to be exactly the same as talking to another kid.
Game-based groups offer kids an opportunity to socialize and practice skills in a low-pressure environment, and these types of groups often translate easily into online sessions. I am currently running Dungeons & Dragons-based therapy groups for kids in my own practice, and I’ve found that the game gives kids some structure that makes getting to know each other online feel less awkward, while still giving plenty of opportunities to be creative.
Need More Help Finding an Online Social Group?
The resources I’ve listed here are available to kids throughout the US, but ongoing social distancing means local opportunities are likely popping up in your community, as well. Many dance, art, and music studios are offering distant group learning options for kids, and your local library may be able to give you information about other nearby programs. Older kids might be interested in online foreign language classes offered by local chapters of language and culture societies like the Alliance Française, which are often available online and reasonably priced.
If you’re local to North Carolina, New York, or Florida, my D&D therapy groups might be a good option. Not local to one of these states? Consider my sister site, Young Dragonslayers, where we run non-therapeutic D&D groups for kids focused on friendship-building and fun. I also offer an online coping skills class for tweens, which can help your child learn to manage worries from home.
If you’d like more information on these online social groups or other counseling services, you are always welcome to contact me.
